One of the primary concepts in FlameKeeping is that of using our judgment. We cannot simply ignore what goes on around us. We have to think, to use our best judgment and evaluate what we are facing.
People keep saying that we “shouldn’t judge”. Shouldn’t judge choices, shouldn’t judge clothing, shouldn’t judge. That we should accept.
This is probably the worst advice I’ve ever heard. If we don’t judge, if we don’t use our brains and think and make intelligent choices, we destroy ourselves.
I’m not being over-dramatic. We destroy ourselves when we refuse to use our judgment. It is judgment to recognize threats. It is judgment to know when we need to get away, when we need to refrain from trusting. When we are threatened and when we are just annoyed.
Why is judgment viewed as so bad? It’s because it’s been combined with the idea of discrimination and prejudice. We’ve lost the fact that we cannot help but judge – that’s what making choices is. We just see how much we don’t like being judged harshly.
But the fact that judgment can be harsh doesn’t mean we should avoid it. Life is full of harsh things. And it’s far worse if we neglect to take care of ourselves in an attempt to not risk hurting someone’s feelings from a negative judgment.
Prompt: what do you think of this essay? How would you judge it? How can judgment be good?